How do you know when you're dating exclusively??
I know for a fact that Dr C is still logging on to the dating website where we met. How do I know? Well, I admit I log on to... but only because I know that he is logging on there. Logical huh?!?!
I check and if he has been online then I think it is ok for me to log on too, that is if he has been online.
I wonder if he is looking for someone else. I know for a fact that he was online today AND he is away skiing in his parents house in the mountains. So, do they have internet access in the house or did he go out of his way to find it??? If he went out of his way exactly why?? Maybe I should just end it here and now so he won't hurt me that bad. I would so miss him if we stopped seeing eachother but I do not want to hear the words "I have found someone else..." I miss him now and he is just away skiing with is family...
I suppose we should have The Talk. My best friend Carl, who is from the US, always tells me about The Talk: it's apparently after the 5th date ( that we passed months ago) you should talk about the future of the relationship and decide if you should be exclusive or date others.
We have not had The Talk yet, wonder if we ever will. We do, however, have sleepovers at least twice a week. He has met most of my friends and my parents. At New Years he was at another party but came over to our party at 4 o'clock in the morning and then we spent the night at my parents place. He stayed on the next day and helped us clean up the place.
A thought just struck me: maybe he is checking the website to see if I still log on... Just takes a little work and you can check without actually having to log on.
Shit, I supposed I need to bring this up but I don't know how, where and when. The best way might be over dinner after some wine at my place so if he dumps me I won't need to get on the subway home.
Oh yes, I love exploring the more paranoid side of myself.
Well, if dumps me I will always remember him fondly *not*
Take care
Song of the day: Hung Up - Madonna
3 comments:
Well, first off, I think you are simply fabulous, so don't get down or worried.
Have the talk if you think it has been long enough; I agree, you should have it in the privacy of your own home. There is no need to have to ride the subway!
Now if it were me, I wouldn't want to be too threatened or have any accusations made, (don't be jealous yet-he may be a clueless wonder-we tend to be that way as mere men!) maybe bring up the relationship and let him know how you are feeling and that you desire an exclusive relationship.
I would want to be honest with you as well, and let you know how I felt.
From what I've read, he'd be foolish to let you go.
You should SO have 'The Talk'. But you should also consider this: he will still be getting e-mails from the dating site inviting him to look at new members, respond to messages etc. and it would be a man singularly lacking in curiosity if he did not click on the links and have a look ... all the time he is probably thinking how lucky he is to have you and that he doesn't need to bother with all that stuff.
To repeat, though, you shaould definitely have The Talk
I agree with all the above and you should have the talk but only if you are ready for the answers...both positive and negative. If not, then keep silent.
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